Saturday, March 2, 2013
Dear Friends and Readers,
I saw this picture and was reminded of how precious girlfriends are. The solid, girlfriend friendships that last through years of life. The ups, the downs, the fun, the mistakes and the celebrations.
Today, one of my dear friends is in pain. Not physicial pain, but a heartfelt pain that you cannot put a bandage on or remove by surgery. Although, feeling this much pain in your heart, one wishes they could surgically remove it.
Divorce is such a difficult process to go through, emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially. The ups and downs can be on a daily basis and one feels like they will never recover. And the residual impact is unknown until the papers are signed and one tries to put the pieces back together.
My heart goes out to my dear friend today. I know that she is loved by so many friends and family and that she will overcome the pain that this bears.
Relationships in our lives are so important to our growth as humans. And it seems that the relationship between men and women plays such a key role in our existence. This primary bond can be so exciting and joyful and at the same time it can be so incredibly painful when we part ways.
We must choose our relationships wisely and be careful to surround ourselves with positive people that build us up instead of tear us down or ones that cause emotional havoc.
I am thinking of you today my friend with lots of love and hopefullness that Light will soon shine upon your world and make it brighter once again.
With much Love,
Posted by Kimberley Barker Nightingale at 5:56 PM
I have been waiting for my silence to be broken and for inspiration to come to write once again.
And the inspiration came on a very snowy and cold night in February. The streets were a bit tricky to drive on and warnings spread throughout the TV and radio stations about the NorthEast Blizzard coming to New York City, Boston and Rhode Island.
As I worked throughout the day watching the snow come down like rain, I yearned to be home in my kitchen cooking up a nice hot meal. As the clock struck 5, I headed to my car and drove toward the grocery store. I had wanted to get a quick work out in but after trudging my way through slick road conditions, home was my destination of choice.
I walked through the familiar doors of Wegmans, I must walk through them as much as I do my home and the gym, and noticed some people mulling around outside. I couldn't quite make out what was going on so I proceeded toward the produce. As I walked toward the oranges, an older man stopped me and asked me if someone had gotten hurt outside. and that "He would have helped Her if He were out there." I smiled at him and proceeded to walk away when he asked me if I used Avon products.
I stopped in my tracks and thought, Now why would this older gentleman ask me such an odd question? I turned around and said "No, I use Estee Lauder."
Oh, Estee Lauder, my wife used Estee Lauder, he replied. He continued on to say that he had lost her about a year ago and that he was going through a cabinet recently and found some Estee Lauder perfume she had worn sprayed it into the air. "I shouldn't have done that" he said quietly.
I saw the pain in his heart come through his eyes. I reached out and touched his arm, looked into his eyes and said that I was sorry to hear that.
He thanked me and proceeded to tell me that he needs a 50 year old woman or maybe a 45 year old woman to spend time with. I almost choked as I just turned 50 not six weeks ago!
He went onto to say, "I work out every day young lady! Look at me, how old do you think I am?" So, I told him that really I wasn't too good at that game.
He said I am 78! Do you have a boyfriend? Oh boy, I knew that was coming! Although I didn't have an "official" boyfriend, I said I did anyway. I didn't want to hurt the older mans feelings by turning him down for a date.
As we continued to chat, we turned to see beautiful tulip bulbs set in glass vases that were for sale. They were bright red, orange/yellow and pink. I cherished the view and said that these sure made you feel good in the midst of a snowstorm.
This sweet ,older man told me that if I were his girlfriend, he would buy one for me. I knew that came from his heart.
I didn't have a sweetheart to celebrate this Valentines Day with and nor did this older man, however, that brief encounter warmed my heart and I hoped it gave him a bit of joy as well.
And so my dear friends and readers, although we don't have that special someone in our lives that we wake up to each day, take the time to talk to a stranger, give a smile to someone, surround yourselves with those that lift you up. Love will fill your heart.
Posted by Kimberley Barker Nightingale at 12:28 PM